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elaine0602
Elaine0602  (Level: 50.3 - Posts: 111)
Fri, 7th Nov '08 3:50 PM

I REALLY NEED A HUG

I came home during lunch today to check on my 15 year old cocker spaniel, Rusty, who was recently diagnosed with stomach cancer. He was laying on the kitchen floor. He raised his head and looked at me when I walked in. I petted him on his head and just died right there. It was like he waited for me to come home to say goodbye. My heart is breaking. I know he is in a better place now but it still hurts so bad. I have him wrapped in his favorite blanket waiting for help to come to bury him. I keep hoping he will wake up again but its not happening,

caramel1
Caramel1  (Level: 128.3 - Posts: 21602)
Fri, 7th Nov '08 3:56 PM

So VERY sorry and sad. I lost my Sally dog recently and feel your devastation-hugs to you-Linda

violetblue
Violetblue  (Level: 112.2 - Posts: 850)
Fri, 7th Nov '08 4:00 PM

(( ))

I am very sorry for your loss.

smaug
Smaug  (Level: 141.2 - Posts: 2772)
Fri, 7th Nov '08 4:03 PM

Wow....almost the exact same thing happened to me and Easybejesus.

gypsylady
Gypsylady  (Level: 142.8 - Posts: 6057)
Fri, 7th Nov '08 4:04 PM

I'm sorry, Elaine, you lost Rusty! Just glad he got to say goodbye! I know you will miss him a lot!

Marilyn...

smoke
Smoke  (Level: 96.7 - Posts: 12009)
Fri, 7th Nov '08 4:09 PM

Oh, dear Elaine, here's hugs - ((())) There's really nothing to say that will make it better, but I so wish there was.

Maybe he waited to say goodbye, and he waited for you before he could let go, or he wanted to turn over the duty of watching the house, a job well done to the end. Maybe for all those reasons he waited for you to come home, to feel your hand once more, telling him all was okay.

I've always had to "make the decision" with our dogs, so I'm glad you were spared that. I'm very, very sorry for your loss.

elaine0602
Elaine0602  (Level: 50.3 - Posts: 111)
Fri, 7th Nov '08 4:17 PM

It's really strange. I always kinda felt like this was his house and he just let me sleep here. I was ALWAYS at work and he was ALWAYS home waiting to welcome me no matter how late it was. Such unconditional love. The house is gonna feel pretty empty without him. The fish in the aquarium could care less if I come home or not.

oldcougar
Oldcougar  (Level: 220.4 - Posts: 1935)
Fri, 7th Nov '08 4:17 PM

So sorry Elaine As posted in another thread, our old boy is getting very shaky & I'm feeding him pet vitamins & hoping he'll improve but I know it's just a matter of time. Sorry you've lost your friend

nelly
Nelly  (Level: 172.0 - Posts: 1167)
Fri, 7th Nov '08 4:22 PM

Elaine, I'm so very sorry. I'm glad you were there for Rusty and glad you enjoyed 15 happy years together. I know how devastated you feel and I'll be thinking of you.

A big hug from me ( )
Karen

papermanbill
Papermanbill  (Level: 41.3 - Posts: 1313)
Fri, 7th Nov '08 4:24 PM

All pets should be like some of those tropical parrots or macaw thingys, they live to be 70-75 years old. Or, throw a sea turtle in the backyard pool and it'll live to almost 200. Really sorry for your loss, we know how you feel.

bbear
Bbear  (Level: 161.7 - Posts: 2301)
Fri, 7th Nov '08 4:26 PM

So sorry. I'm sure he loved you right up until the minute he died. I know when my cat died recently she knew I was there.

bushyfox
Bushyfox  (Level: 174.4 - Posts: 2403)
Fri, 7th Nov '08 4:29 PM

I feel so sorry for you..it is very hard to lose one of your furry kids. I am sure you have many happy memories: let them comfort you during your grieving.

Here's a ((())) !!!

~Bev

elaine0602
Elaine0602  (Level: 50.3 - Posts: 111)
Fri, 7th Nov '08 4:32 PM

I knew time had come for me to make the decision about putting him down, but I just couldn't bring myself to do it yet. I guess he wanted to spare me that hurt. I had to put my last pet down when he was 18 yrs old and I thought I would die too. I guess you feel guilty either way you go. I felt guilty for putting my last pet down but I still feel guilty about making Rusty linger for my own selfish reasons. There is just no easy answer.

sandracam
Sandracam  (Level: 149.3 - Posts: 4190)
Fri, 7th Nov '08 4:32 PM

What a heartbreak. I'm glad your dear dog got to say goodbye. It's so hard losing a loved one. Wishing you comfort at this difficult time.

elaine0602
Elaine0602  (Level: 50.3 - Posts: 111)
Fri, 7th Nov '08 4:42 PM

Thank you so much for all of your hugs and letting me vent and cry on your shoulders. I just can't stop going into the kitchen to check on him, like he's going to wake up. He's getting so cold even though I have blankets on him. I guess he's really gone.

1mks
1mks  (Level: 211.0 - Posts: 5883)
Fri, 7th Nov '08 4:48 PM

I am so very sorry. We lost one of our cats last week to cancer. You know, I bet they are together, running around and waiting for us. My heart breaks for you. It is so hard to lose our pets. I'm sitting here with tears dripping,wishing there was some way I knew exactly how to comfort you. Take care.
Marsha

cjar855
Cjar855  (Level: 133.4 - Posts: 838)
Fri, 7th Nov '08 4:55 PM

So very sorry to hear of your loss. They are truly family.

rowlanda
Rowlanda  (Level: 70.0 - Posts: 2856)
Fri, 7th Nov '08 4:55 PM

I'm so so sorry Elaine....all of us Pet Owners know what you are going through.
We all wish they could live just as long as we do.....I do know what you are feeling.

Years ago I had a 17 year old dog. One day she was chasing squirrels, then she
suddenly went blind and from then she was struggling to stay alive. We had a long
talk about how it was time to let go. I would hurt like hell for a long time - but was
ready to let her go visit her friends in Doggy Heaven.
A few days later, I woke up to start the day, she wobbled towards me to say
"good morning" as usual. Then she lay down, bled a little from her mouth, and died.

Rusty wanted you to know he loved you and knew he was loved. He waited long
enough to let you know you shouldn't feel any guilt or feel you could have done
something. Stomach Cancer is very painful and now he is at Peace.....

God Bless You Elaine and I hope you will soon feel comfort and peace yourself

bleepy
Bleepy  (Level: 140.4 - Posts: 620)
Fri, 7th Nov '08 5:12 PM

So........................very sorry! ( (HUGS) ) for you.

elaine0602
Elaine0602  (Level: 50.3 - Posts: 111)
Fri, 7th Nov '08 5:15 PM

Please don't get upset with me for continuing to babble on. I am here alone with him and I keep thinking that I should be doing something but I don't know what that is. I just cant go back to work today, I've vacuumed and swept the kitchen and washed the dishes and talked to him. My X mother-in-law will be here soon and then I can use her shoulder to cry on for awhile. My friend has gone to build a box to bury him in. What can I do ?

1mks
1mks  (Level: 211.0 - Posts: 5883)
Fri, 7th Nov '08 5:17 PM

There is nothing else that you can do. He knew you loved him. That is all that matters.

gypsylady
Gypsylady  (Level: 142.8 - Posts: 6057)
Fri, 7th Nov '08 5:24 PM

The consolation I always find whether it be a person or a pet is they are not suffering anymore, and you wouldn't want them to suffer.

Marilyn...

knerd
Knerd  (Level: 99.0 - Posts: 1141)
Fri, 7th Nov '08 5:40 PM

So sorry - hugs to you. There is nothing else to say - I feel for you, though. Cry to us here anytime - I know a lot of us are real animal lovers and have gone through what you are going through at some point in time. Hang in there!

lucimoore
Lucimoore  (Level: 183.4 - Posts: 1684)
Fri, 7th Nov '08 5:52 PM

Love to you Elaine. So sad for you, still can't talk about my big guy without crying but I know he and Rusty are both better off.

elaine0602
Elaine0602  (Level: 50.3 - Posts: 111)
Fri, 7th Nov '08 5:57 PM

People are starting to arrive now to help. I want to thank everybody so much for being here for me. I has meant sooo much to me to not be so alone. I just love my Sploofus family L

seniorrita
Seniorrita  (Level: 140.1 - Posts: 223)
Fri, 7th Nov '08 6:52 PM

Here's the biggest hug I can send... (((((( ))))))

No words needed.

the SeniorRita

suzannec
Suzannec  (Level: 247.2 - Posts: 616)
Fri, 7th Nov '08 7:08 PM

So sorry for your loss. It sounds as though Rusty had a wonderful and full life. That is so much more than what many pets get to have. My thoughts are with you at this sad time.

taco24
Taco24  (Level: 131.3 - Posts: 589)
Fri, 7th Nov '08 7:17 PM

Oh, I am so sorry.

My condolences on the loss of Rusty.



phitzy1
Phitzy1  (Level: 66.4 - Posts: 873)
Fri, 7th Nov '08 7:21 PM

Oh, Elaine!!! So sorry to hear of your loss...

it is devastating to lose a pet...

my condolences.

pepperdoc
Pepperdoc  (Level: 152.5 - Posts: 4286)
Fri, 7th Nov '08 7:40 PM

Elaine, I'm so sorry to hear about Rusty. I had a 13-year-old cocker spaniel, B.J., and faced the same decision you had. I don't think there's any right or wrong in this. You do what you think is best and know that Rusty is at peace. My heart goes out to you.

salzypat
Salzypat  (Level: 156.5 - Posts: 5316)
Fri, 7th Nov '08 8:57 PM

I'm so sorry Elaine. I know you must feel like your house is so empty tonight. It hurts so much when they leave us but in time you'll remember the joy Rusty brought to your life. He knew you'd be home and he waited for you. That shows a special love that he had for you; he wanted to say goodbye.

Just think about his faithfulness and love. And if you need to talk to someone during the night, my guess is there's always someone available to lend a supportive shoulder, if not in Salty Dog, then maybe in shout in Word Rounds.

Take care.

toledosugar
Toledosugar  (Level: 51.4 - Posts: 281)
Fri, 7th Nov '08 11:44 PM

Elaine, I am so sorry. It's like losing one of your children. At my age, my dogs are my children. I am crying with you and hugging you at the same time.
Sharyn

mplaw51
Mplaw51  (Level: 179.5 - Posts: 1582)
Fri, 7th Nov '08 11:53 PM

Elaine, I'm sorry about your dear friend Rusty. It's never easy whether we're prepared or not. How very special that he waited for you, he must have loved you very much.


tuzilla
Tuzilla  (Level: 134.1 - Posts: 3778)
Sat, 8th Nov '08 1:16 AM

The loss of a true friend, so as Rusty, is always devastating. One of the only two times I ever saw my dad cry was when he had to put down his loyal hunting companion, Smokey. The other was when his father passed away.

Take solace in the fact Rusty is in a better place, with the pain, and probably feeling as frisky as a pup.

chyenn
Chyenn  (Level: 202.6 - Posts: 1332)
Sat, 8th Nov '08 7:00 AM

Elaine, i'm sending you hugs and lots of love ----

ladyvol
Ladyvol  (Level: 205.4 - Posts: 5490)
Sat, 8th Nov '08 9:21 AM

(((((Elaine)))))...I'm here if you need me okay? Love to you...
Vickie

crazy4games
Crazy4games  (Level: 123.0 - Posts: 1020)
Sat, 8th Nov '08 9:59 AM

Elaine, my condolences on the loss of your beloved friend Rusty. I'm so sorry. (())

davidf
Davidf  (Level: 102.1 - Posts: 746)
Sat, 8th Nov '08 10:30 AM

Hugs to you from me in England

salzypat
Salzypat  (Level: 156.5 - Posts: 5316)
Sat, 8th Nov '08 11:03 PM

Elaine, how are things going for you today? I've been thinking about you a lot.

tresgatos
Tresgatos  (Level: 205.1 - Posts: 4197)
Sat, 8th Nov '08 11:19 PM

Elaine,
I'm very sorry to hear about your loss. I hope you can take some comfort in knowing you made Rusty very happy, and he knew you loved him. Let us know how you're doing when you feel up to it.

Hugs,
-- Geri

chickfbref1
Chickfbref1  (Level: 120.7 - Posts: 2012)
Sat, 8th Nov '08 11:20 PM

Elaine,

I don't normally do this, but you made me cry. Thinking of you my dear...

Me.

koota
Koota  (Level: 181.9 - Posts: 2104)
Sat, 8th Nov '08 11:31 PM

Hi Elaine,
I'm so glad that Rusty was able to say good-bye to you. It's so hard to lose a loved member of your family ... and our furry friends are often loved as family members. Hang in there.

Katy

elaine0602
Elaine0602  (Level: 50.3 - Posts: 111)
Sat, 8th Nov '08 11:48 PM

I'm doing better today. My daughter and little granddaughters got here today to be with me while a friend helped me bury Rusty. My friend built him a little casket last night. My granddaughters wanted to spend the night with me so that I wouldn't be alone again tonight. They have smothered me with hugs and kisses and kept me busy. My six year old granddaughter wants me to let her dog live here so that I won't be alone. How sweet is that....She asked if we could have our bedtime prayer outside with him. As much as I miss him I know he is in a better place. He is no longer deaf and no longer suffering from cancer.
My Sploofus family helped me through a really rough time yesterday. I was hurting so bad and it was going to be awhile before anybody could leave work to come be with me. I know I must have sounded like a raving maniac ......but I do appreciate all the kind words and support more than you will ever know. I don't know what I would have done without you all. I don't want to ever hear anybody say that this wonderful island of friends has lost it's love. I am certainly not one of the well known members but I reached out for help and you all rallied around me. I will be forever grateful for that.

Elaine

pepperdoc
Pepperdoc  (Level: 152.5 - Posts: 4286)
Sat, 8th Nov '08 11:53 PM



alvandy
Alvandy  (Level: 229.6 - Posts: 7570)
Sun, 9th Nov '08 12:09 AM


Rusty saved enough strength to wait for you to come home that day to say goodbye.
I'm sure he wants you to be strong now.



pennwoman
Pennwoman  (Level: 155.2 - Posts: 2478)
Sun, 9th Nov '08 9:11 AM

Elaine, I am so sorry for your loss -- but you never sounded like a maniac, you just sounded like someone who lost someone that you loved. I am glad everyone was here for you. We will continue to keep you in our hearts and prayers!

gerryn
Gerryn  (Level: 18.7 - Posts: 141)
Sun, 9th Nov '08 9:15 AM

I'm so sorry for your loss. My daughter lost her golden to cancer last month. It broke my daughter and granddaughter's hearts. We get so attached to our pets and they become such an intregal part of our lives. Rusty is probably running with our Casey looking for birds in heaven.

Take care



jeannette
Jeannette  (Level: 111.1 - Posts: 1736)
Sun, 9th Nov '08 12:39 PM

so sorry elaine for your loss its very hard losing a pet because there part of your family and give there love whole heartedly a big hug and know lots people are thinking of you xx j

rowlanda
Rowlanda  (Level: 70.0 - Posts: 2856)
Sun, 9th Nov '08 2:13 PM

I'm glad we were able to "hold your hand" Elaine, until your family
and friends arrived to give you real Hugs....
We all knew what you were feeling, because we've all been there.
You sounded like someone in pain....nothing negative in that....
Feel better soon....

fudypatootie
Fudypatootie  (Level: 197.3 - Posts: 1302)
Mon, 10th Nov '08 1:09 AM

((( ))) So sorry!

osuzannacollage
Osuzannacollage  (Level: 132.1 - Posts: 1299)
Mon, 10th Nov '08 2:02 AM


Elaine, I'm so happy that you and Rusty had such a caring and profound love for each other, and that you were both so fortunate as to enjoy it for 15 years! You must be so terribly sad, but just know that you'll be together again one day. Until then, rejoice in the good times you had with each other, and celebrate the unconditional love. It's so devastating to lose a loved one, but so important to honor their memory with loving thoughts. Celebrate the love! He'll always be in your heart, and made the world a much better place in which to live.

God bless!


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