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Jank0614  (Level: 67.1 - Posts: 4593)
Thu, 13th Nov '08 10:43 PM


There is a little girl who needs your prayers. She is 8 years old and her name is Mandy.

Last Saturday morning, her mom (my 2nd best friend and former boss) and her big sister were out running errands, and Mandy had stayed home with her Daddy.

Daddy was in the bedroom folding laundry. Mandy heard a loud noise and went to check on her dad.

Her dad, 43 years old, was unconscious on the floor.

Having lived in this house most of her life, she knew her neighbors and started going door to door to get help. Finally, a neighbor came to the door and then joined Mandy running to the house to check on dad.

It was too late. Her dad had passed away.

We still don't know why. An autopsy was done, but the results won't be known for a few days.

The entire family, his parents, his siblings, my friend, and the girls, are all strong believers. But this sudden devastation has all of them reeling, as you can imagine, and I can't even guess how Mandy is doing. I haven't gotten to talk to the mom, but as I understand it, Mandy is staying with grandparents and not at the house.

If you get a chance, and God brings her to your mind during your prayer time, please bring Mandy before the Lord. She has a long life ahead of her, and these moments in time will never leave her memory.

You guys are great. Thank you.

Knerd  (Level: 99.0 - Posts: 1139)
Thu, 13th Nov '08 10:57 PM

Will do - definitely - so sorry to hear about this. I know once you do get a chance to talk to the mother that you will be a great comfort to her and her entire family.

Barb1111  (Level: 114.5 - Posts: 215)
Thu, 13th Nov '08 11:07 PM

She will be included in my prayers. I hope that she will get the counseling she needs to get through this.

Mplaw51  (Level: 184.8 - Posts: 1581)
Thu, 13th Nov '08 11:13 PM

She is added to the list. Poor child, what an indelible memory for her to hold and cross to bear. She probably believes she should have saved him. Yes, she's high on the list.

Ladyvol  (Level: 212.9 - Posts: 5673)
Thu, 13th Nov '08 11:18 PM

Praying for this little girl and her family...

Salzypat  (Level: 162.6 - Posts: 5426)
Fri, 14th Nov '08 2:11 AM

What a life-changing event for such a small girl. Her name goes up on my prayer list above my computer. Please let us know how things go for this family in the days ahead.

Gypsylady  (Level: 149.2 - Posts: 6102)
Fri, 14th Nov '08 4:28 AM

My prayers for little Mandy, her mother, family and you.


Bushyfox  (Level: 174.4 - Posts: 2403)
Fri, 14th Nov '08 4:48 AM

My prayers for li'l Mandy. I also lost my Dad when I was quite young, so I sorta understand her confusion and sense of loss.

It's so hard to deal with this kind of grief, when the one you would look to for comfort is the one who has gone.

I hope folks realize how she feels, and comfort can take a long time for the healing.

I ask God to watch over all the family, with gentle love.


Lamizell  (Level: 108.2 - Posts: 441)
Fri, 14th Nov '08 5:17 AM

This also brings home how important it is to teach even very young children about calling 911 in an emergency. Poor Mandy.

Felix  (Level: 109.3 - Posts: 2500)
Fri, 14th Nov '08 5:43 AM

Mandy has been added to my list.

Jank0614  (Level: 67.1 - Posts: 4593)
Fri, 14th Nov '08 6:04 AM

Thank you so much, guys. I'll keep you informed as I know more.

Mandy knew and had been trained about 9-1-1. I guess it scared her so badly she needed another human in person more than she could trust the phone in her panic.

Revdodd  (Level: 68.7 - Posts: 775)
Fri, 14th Nov '08 6:07 AM

That one hits home around here. My wife's dad fell over ("snap! just like that!" is how she describes it) the day before Halloween when she was 9.

She and the rest of the family are in our thoughts and prayers.

Tresgatos  (Level: 217.0 - Posts: 4447)
Fri, 14th Nov '08 6:08 AM

I'm very sorry to hear about this. My grandmother lost her mother when she was 10 and never really got over it. She couldn't really bring herself to talk about her mom, so my siblings and I never learned much about her. I'll be keeping Mandy and her family in my thoughts and prayers. If her family is open to professional counseling, that could be beneficial as well.

-- Geri

Chyenn  (Level: 210.7 - Posts: 1332)
Fri, 14th Nov '08 6:42 AM

Mandy and her loved ones are in my prayers.

Lettermanfan1  (Level: 88.3 - Posts: 486)
Fri, 14th Nov '08 6:44 AM

Poor little sweetie. I'll keep all who knew him in my prayers.

Tuzilla  (Level: 146.4 - Posts: 3843)
Fri, 14th Nov '08 9:04 AM

Our condolences and prayers to Mandy and her family.

Jeannette  (Level: 115.1 - Posts: 1735)
Fri, 14th Nov '08 11:04 AM

poor little girl i will keep mandy and her family in my prayers .

1mks  (Level: 220.9 - Posts: 5928)
Fri, 14th Nov '08 11:30 AM

I am so very sorry. Good thoughts and lots of prayers headed her way.....and for you also.

Rowlanda  (Level: 70.0 - Posts: 2853)
Sat, 15th Nov '08 12:35 AM

Such a sad story and such a tragedy for Mandy
especially....I will pray for her.

If you have any influence at all....please ask her mother
to ensure that Mandy gets to talk about the experience
with professionals.
Children don't understand the context and don't have the
language to work on their feelings about Trauma and Death.
They need skilled guidance - so as not to bottle up all the Pain
and Guilt - until it damages their life possibilities

Eileeny  (Level: 70.6 - Posts: 240)
Wed, 19th Nov '08 6:39 PM

Yes Rowlanda I agree God Bless and watch over Mandy and her family my prayers are with them.

Salzypat  (Level: 162.6 - Posts: 5426)
Sat, 22nd Nov '08 11:29 AM

Jank, do you have any updates on this family, and especially Mandy? I see her name on my prayer list above my computer several times a day and I always wonder how they are doing.

Jank0614  (Level: 67.1 - Posts: 4593)
Sat, 22nd Nov '08 11:38 AM

No update at all yet. I tried to go see mom at school Wednesday, but I called the secretary there first (we were gossip buddies way back when I accompanied there before getting my own school). She said mom had been working part days this week but they had given her an assistant to help for a few weeks. Mom has not stayed a full working day this week, and had already left when I called. The principal's advice to me was to wait till the week after Thanksgiving. I know this week has got to be really hard - family plans for the holidays so different now. Secretary told me the older daughter is doing ok but she did not know if Mandy is even back at school yet (since it's a different school). Mom is a choir director, and I've mentioned before how music teachers have to start their holiday music so early - I'm sure they have a concert scheduled within 2 weeks after Thanksgiving. I'm sure one of the other directors in the district is helping mom with that part, too.

I'll update the moment I find out anything. Thank you for asking, and most of all, thank you for still praying!

Jank0614  (Level: 67.1 - Posts: 4593)
Wed, 3rd Dec '08 9:25 PM

Ok, I got to spend a few hours with Mandy and her mom and sister today. They are doing really well. Dad's death was ruled a heart attack.

I found out much more accurately the details of what Mandy went through. She couldn't phone 9-1-1 because the battery on the phone was dead and replacing it was one of the things on mom's list to do for the day. There were more details, but I don't feel like I have the right to share them. If you've been through a traumatic experience and shared details with a friend, I'm sure you understand how I feel.

Mandy is doing unbelievably well considering what she went through that morning. She is scheduled to begin counseling with a top child bereavement center in the area, starting in January.

Thank you for your prayers - God has indeed held this family in his arms of comfort and peace. And in the future, any time the Holy Spirit lays it on your heart to remember Mandy, please say another prayer for her. This will be an ongoing need for years to come, as many have mentioned above.

I watched mom teach today, and she was as brilliant as usual. And her students were absolutely surrounding her and the 2 daughters in love. They are being spoiled by an entire school and neighborhood of people who love them.

Alvandy  (Level: 241.6 - Posts: 7717)
Wed, 3rd Dec '08 9:34 PM

Some good news.
The family seems to be adjusting. The external support they need is a great help at this troubled time.

It's wonderful to read these posts from so many compassionate people [such as Jank, Pat and others here on Sploofus ] and freely offer their love and support too.

Mplaw51  (Level: 184.8 - Posts: 1581)
Wed, 3rd Dec '08 10:18 PM

Thanks for the update, we'll keep Mandy and her family on the "needs prayers" list.

Virtus  (Level: 170.8 - Posts: 2493)
Wed, 3rd Dec '08 10:26 PM

School counselors can also be helpful, I used to be one. Might also be helpful for her friends at school too. I will be keeping Mandy and her family in my prayers. Anne

Salzypat  (Level: 162.6 - Posts: 5426)
Wed, 3rd Dec '08 10:30 PM

Thank you for the update on Mandy. I was sure the mother would probably be "OK" but I had been concerned for little Mandy. Such a tender age to be subjected to such a tragedy. But the spirit is strong and can heal even the greatest tragedy. I'm sure their friends and church family are holding them close during this time. Bless you for what you can do for them.

Rowlanda  (Level: 70.0 - Posts: 2853)
Thu, 4th Dec '08 12:10 AM

I'm so happy to hear that Mandy is going to get counselling
and that the family are being loved and supported in the
Often the child cannot grieve as they need to, because they
feel the parent's pain is more important...also they find it
hard to verbalize what they feel

On a lighter note....I feel funny asking God to bless and
support Randy and Mandy....

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