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Godwit  (Level: 81.2 - Posts: 435)
Wed, 5th Aug '09 9:29 PM


Just have to say I don't understand the point of leaving nasty comments. Does it make a player feel superior? They feel good to tromp on someone? I know Editors will remove comments and speak to a person who goes way over the line--that is a Godsend because otherwise they might go trolling through the place leaving venom everywhere.

Still. It seems they enjoy hurting others. I played trivia for years with people who were nothing but gracious, fun, funny and kind. This bunch of goons who go around being vicious is new to me, and un-fun. I have to think they are miserable in their lives to have nothing better to do than put down others.

Which brings me to say how MUCH I APPRECIATE the few people who go around leaving helpful comments, or uplifting compliments. We all know who they are.

Koota  (Level: 189.1 - Posts: 2120)
Wed, 5th Aug '09 9:34 PM

I suspect that it is the anonymity that makes people say nasty things on websites. They can't say those things in real life to real people, so they dish it out here.

I could be wrong.

I, too, appreciate the positive posters.

1mks  (Level: 221.1 - Posts: 5929)
Wed, 5th Aug '09 10:01 PM

I have never understood that either. I was basically always taught..if you can't say something nice, keep your mouth shut. I do try to do that. Some times I fail miserably (bwahahaha) but I can honestly say that I have never posted a message about someones quiz that was down right nasty or hurtful. I don't see the need for that. It is cruel and anything like that should be removed. Please try not to take it personally. I hope that tomorrow your day is absolutely wonderful in every way.

Clevercloggs  (Level: 27.4 - Posts: 1246)
Thu, 6th Aug '09 5:22 AM

Somebody left a sarky comment the other day, so i wrote back to them. He was most apologetic and said "i suppose i asked for that". I appreciate genuine interest and criticism, the others i just assume are deficient in something. On the plus side, most people seem really appreciative. Group hug ?

Didb72  (Level: 222.2 - Posts: 243)
Thu, 6th Aug '09 5:27 AM

One bad comment does not deter me of writing quizzes. I always write quizzes for people who appreciate them. Bad comments are very rare but always unpleasant.

Tresayre  (Level: 82.1 - Posts: 362)
Thu, 6th Aug '09 8:42 AM

I sometimes get mean comments too.
Usually they come from people who don't write quizzes themselves.
Its really easy to make small mistakes and its nice to know there is a mistake (so you can fix it).
I used to get really upset by them, but now I just think what a nasty person they must be and ask for the comment to be removed.

Jank0614  (Level: 67.1 - Posts: 4593)
Thu, 6th Aug '09 8:51 AM

Judy, I just took 2 of your quizzes and looked at your profile. Just since February of 2008, you've written over 430 games. That's an amazing record!

I've played quizzes written by each of you and they are amazing. I'm so sorry anyone writes anything hurtful.

Marynuala  (Level: 141.3 - Posts: 996)
Thu, 6th Aug '09 10:52 AM

It is more important Godwit, that nice people leave appreciative comments about your quizzes that they enjoyed doing, than the mean minority who perhaps have a chip on their shoulder. Just ignore it, knowing it is their problem, and they have to live with their malicious personalities. So pity them instead.

Leaston  (Level: 42.6 - Posts: 838)
Thu, 6th Aug '09 10:54 AM

I haven't written a quiz in a long time... but I have always had a few bad comments on the ones I have written. I think it is wrong for people to be so unkind,but there are those who has nothing better to do.

Jank0614  (Level: 67.1 - Posts: 4593)
Thu, 6th Aug '09 11:00 AM

You're so right, Mary. And I forget that sometimes.

Goddess28  (Level: 92.6 - Posts: 5235)
Thu, 6th Aug '09 11:14 AM


Bakerstreeet  (Level: 42.7 - Posts: 187)
Thu, 6th Aug '09 11:44 AM

Hey, Judy! I really appreciate your post, and opening up a thread on this topic. To me, each one of us has a responsibility to elevate a thread we're in, rather than to cheapen it by posting nasty comments. I think everyone has suggested reasons people do it. I have noticed that there is a certain mob mentality to it, also. Once there is a truly nasty comment, the threads tend to go downhill as others pile on the negative responses. Like you, I was really shocked when I first joined Sploofus and began reading the threads on the Island. I had never been involved with anyone who would leave mean-spirited comments at a website before. Thus, I decided pretty early on that I wasn't going to be doing a lot of posting, and that I would try to only post positive comments. I have criticized a couple of threads for what I believed was non-family friendly posts, and unfortunately FAILED pretty miserably to maintain a postive tone when I posted in those. I think it's very challenging, and your thread reminds us all that we need to review what we plan to post BEFORE we post! Thanks again, Emily

Jeannette  (Level: 115.1 - Posts: 1734)
Thu, 6th Aug '09 12:40 PM

i was taught the same as Marsha if you havnt got anything good to say keep your mouth shut ,my granny allways said the least said the soonest mended

Caramel1  (Level: 136.2 - Posts: 21613)
Thu, 6th Aug '09 1:11 PM

Marsha's statement is the same reason I don't comment on many of the word puzzles-nevver do very well but some I hate but don't say it . REPEAT ONCE AGAIN- What constructive purpose is served by having comments on quizzes show at all?? In old Sploofus I liked to comment on quizzes and if I thought I saw an error kindly said as much but only the author saw those.

Goddess28  (Level: 92.6 - Posts: 5235)
Thu, 6th Aug '09 1:43 PM

Emily, you just need thick skin. If you wade into a thread that is obviously heated and interject your opinion, expect to get opinion back. It's not personal. I think we play with words more than being just plain nasty, at least I do. The thread I think (correct me if I am wrong) was about comments players leave on quizzes. They can be quite mean.

Smoke  (Level: 96.7 - Posts: 12008)
Thu, 6th Aug '09 1:46 PM

Honey, she's talking about comments on quizzes.

Leenah  (Level: 2.3 - Posts: 18)
Thu, 6th Aug '09 3:33 PM

It took 4 days until a sports-loving lad suggested I was cheating. Longer than usual.

Smoke  (Level: 96.7 - Posts: 12008)
Thu, 6th Aug '09 3:50 PM

You must be good.

Godwit  (Level: 81.2 - Posts: 435)
Thu, 6th Aug '09 6:47 PM

THANKs for all the wise words and feedback.

I feel MUCH better.

I have 79 quizzes and 22 Kerplunks since I joined in Aug 08. I've enjoyed writing them all, and survived the attacks despite the bruises. I work hard on my quizzes yet sometimes I make mistakes and sometimes I'm just plain dead wrong.

To some that means I should be burned at the stake.

You're right, there are a lot more smiles and support than the few brutal clubbings. I have some members 100% supportive who always cheer me up. And a few who say, "Want me to beat him up for you?" lol. (Smart and articulate means you can word-whip a person into mush.) Maybe some people are like...who was that character who often said he didn't know his own strength?

Group hug sounds fun. This really WAS a group hug.

Aquamar  (Level: 187.0 - Posts: 926)
Thu, 6th Aug '09 7:34 PM

I agree with Katy these people can only say bad things in writing because they don't have the courage to say them to someone face to face. I haven't had very many nasty things said to me maybe because I bite back. This site has so many people now that I'm sure someone will have something to say that isn't nice. I'm happy to say that almost everyone I know will make a nice comment so please keep writing those great quizzes.

Goddess28  (Level: 92.6 - Posts: 5235)
Thu, 6th Aug '09 7:42 PM

Almost everyone you know? LOL....guess we all know some like that.

Bakerstreeet  (Level: 42.7 - Posts: 187)
Fri, 7th Aug '09 11:36 AM

Donna, you're absolutely right, I was talking about threads, not quizzes, sorry. To be honest, though, I feel the same regardless of the delivery location of the comments. In terms of being more thick skinned, I was completely thick skinned at my job, because I had to be to survive. I find that when it comes to hobbies, I want to just be myself, and not be forced to have to have a thick skin to have fun, enjoy the puzzles and make friends. I can certainly understand word play, but I'll never understand disrespect or mean spirited attacks -- in any venue. Thanks.

Goddess28  (Level: 92.6 - Posts: 5235)
Fri, 7th Aug '09 2:08 PM

Emily, I didn't mean any disrespect to you. My comments were not directed at you personally, just in general...I agree that disrespect has no place here. It is sooooo much better than it was a few months ago. There is actual dialog going on instead of just nastiness and name calling. Some it is rather funny, and some like watching a trainwreck. LOL...take it with a grain of salt.

Aquamar  (Level: 187.0 - Posts: 926)
Fri, 7th Aug '09 2:16 PM

Using the term " I know" is relative. I didn't say my friends.

Goddess28  (Level: 92.6 - Posts: 5235)
Fri, 7th Aug '09 2:18 PM

I don't care. It was a joke.

Aquamar  (Level: 187.0 - Posts: 926)
Fri, 7th Aug '09 2:24 PM

Hey, what I just said was a joke too. I just forgot to add lol.

Goddess28  (Level: 92.6 - Posts: 5235)
Fri, 7th Aug '09 2:35 PM


Smoke  (Level: 96.7 - Posts: 12008)
Fri, 7th Aug '09 2:44 PM

Sorry, Emily, my post was aimed at my daughter, Goddess. I hadn't read yours, but I agree with all you say.

Bakerstreeet  (Level: 42.7 - Posts: 187)
Fri, 7th Aug '09 3:10 PM

Not a problem, Donna, I was not remotely offended. I have always enjoyed reading threads in which you and your daughter participate. Your daughter also makes a valid point; that all of Sploofus has improved in recent months. I think that's great, and it's threads like this one that keeps the dialog going! Any website that includes so many diverse persoanlities is bound to have ups and downs. Strong opinions and personalities are wonderful and add genuine richness, but it's also important to reflect when posts and/or quiz comments are made.

Goddess28  (Level: 92.6 - Posts: 5235)
Fri, 7th Aug '09 3:35 PM

~Group hug!~

(I miss that icon)

Smoke  (Level: 96.7 - Posts: 12008)
Fri, 7th Aug '09 3:43 PM

Yeah, that's a REAL issue around here. We got crappy icons.


Look into that for us, okay? [battingeyelashes]

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