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dyenamite
Dyenamite  (Level: 49.6 - Posts: 669)
Sun, 27th Apr '08 7:42 AM

TOUGH TIMES FOR A FRIEND IN NEED!

Hi guys and glams.
Just a 'quick' sob session from me about myself. I just want all my friends here, and significant others, to know what I am going through at the moment. I need a fair but of pepping up ...

Monday, Jacey (my 3 yo angel girl, see my profile) was taken away from me by my ex, with the assurance that I would never be part of her life again. She even threatened to change her last name from mine to her own, so that is no longer any association with my good self ... THIS is not rational, and rather vindictive, I feel. Probably the Ice I suspect she still dabbles in!! Anyway, anyone who knows me at all will agree, I would be doing better right now if she had taken an arm and a leg from me instead. I have been contemplating a restraining order after the crap she pulled on me Mon, but not sure yet. It may greatly hinder future access to J - I have taken steps to speak with a mediator about a parenting plan this week but it looks like I am headed for a court order just to see my little girl.

I have Jacey usually 2 or 3 nights per week, and this is the first weekend EVER I have had the access taken away. In the past I put up with her power games and deceit for 18 months before I had the guts to walk out, knowing that I would only see Jacey once a week instead of tucking her in each night. For a dad who took his baby's first 10 months off work to be at home for those precious moments, 2 days a week is nowhere near adequate. And now ... nothing! It kills me.

Please, my friends, prayers for Jacey and me, that we will both be ok and that we will be with each other soon. (I want 50-50 custody, as I pretty much HAVE been doing up until now. Also a prayer for Nikki, that she realizes the irreversible damage that this will cause me and Jacey , so she might reconsider.

I need as much moral support as I can get.Just a month ago I got through a BIG bout of depression and anxiety, having over 3 weeks off work without pay. That was hard, but I had Jacey as my light in the dark, and Beta to bat out a handful of quizzes each day (hence so many TS and KB, sorry guys!) This is torture. What kind of person wants to sever all ties from a child and their parent? I don't neglect her, I don't abuse her. I'm not a harm to myself or to anyone else. Sure, there are dishes always piled up and I prefer chaos to order when it cmes to home organization, but she never goes without and we loevspending time together. I just don't get it! What would she do if the shoe was on the other foot? Flip out, I know! and I would NEVER try to keep her out of Jacey's life, even after everything! What else can I do to make sure I feel good about being a FANTASTIC dad who does not deserve this ... Do I?

Hence my thread. That's it in a nut shell, more details if you ask. Thanks for your time. I love you guys.
Your Ricky Boy
Dyenamite
PS Thanks to you always, Jim (Allena) ... God is bringing me to this and he will get me through it - Thanks kind sir!
Thanks to Kaz-a, Suzy-Q and Bev-o (Nelly, Suzannec and Bushyfox) who are already doing their best to boost my spirits. You're the best, all of you

PM me if you want to share a similar experience you have had, any advice you may have. Any legal eagles on board, what words of wisdom can you offer?
End Sob session here.

Feel free to pm me with words of encouragement. I value all input, constructive is good, even if I don't like what I hear.

mplaw51
Mplaw51  (Level: 179.5 - Posts: 1582)
Sun, 27th Apr '08 8:02 AM

Your words are remarkably sad and I'm afraid many spouses use their children as a power wedge for insane reaons. You sound like a fine man and great dad, positive thoughts and heartfelt prayers are coming for you and Jacy. I hope there is something you can do legally to protect yourself and the light of your life, Jacy.
Maureen

1mks
1mks  (Level: 210.8 - Posts: 5883)
Sun, 27th Apr '08 8:26 AM

I am so sorry for your troubles. It is amazing how parents try to manipulate their children when going through separations and divorce. They use the very love of their life to get back at the partner that hurt them. I find this to be insane...it hurts the child more than anyone. Just continue to make sure that your daughter knows that you love her and care for her with all your heart and soul. NEVER bad mouth her mother to her or tell her that it is her mother's fault that you are not together...that will eventually turn her against you. Continue to be your loving self and let the mother hang herself with all of her own doing...it does happen. My husband's ex tried her best to turn her children against the both of us....she actually badgered them with how evil we were and that we did not even like them ... much less love them. That has now come full circe for the evil witch. She has 4 grandchildren ages 3 to 10 that she has never laid eyes on and had no interaction with......how very sad is that? I might add, this was her own choice and too long a story to get into here........the bottom line is.....she could not keep her children away from us and eventually they saw her for what she was. Both of her children now call me Mom. There was enough love there for everyone but she chose the path of .......if you don't hate them, I will not be in your life....and gee, guess what she isn't. So please know that this a a temporary thing......it may be wrenching your guts out now and I am so very sorry. But time heals everything. Utmost, take care of yourself so that you will be there for your daughter because she needs you and always will. You need to stay strong for her. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your darling daughter. Marsha

erin0620
Erin0620  (Level: 77.2 - Posts: 737)
Sun, 27th Apr '08 8:50 AM

My heart goes out to you. I know how much you love your little girl, and she is just precious. The best thing you can do is not give your ex a leg to stand on. Clean the hell out of that kitchen, find a way to keep organized. It is important for kids to have that, they need organization and structure, it gives them a sense of peace and balance. I know cleaning is a pain, I was a chaos girl until I forced myself not to anymore, but you will be happier, and your mean ole ex will have to find some other complaint. Tell your girl that you love her no matter what anyone ever tells her. Tell her only you can speak for you and until she hears differently from you, she is your #1 girl and always will be. And then don't try to reason with your ex again. Get the courts to. If she thinks she can manipulate you with your baby, she will do it over and over again. Don't cater to her, don't let her see you get mad, just document what she says and does, and talk to a lawyer.

dyenamite
Dyenamite  (Level: 49.6 - Posts: 669)
Sun, 27th Apr '08 9:32 AM

Thanks ladies. Very nice responses.I assure you, I would never run Nikki into the ground to Jacey like she does to me. I know this will bite her in the ass later down the track! She is only 3 though, and it is impossible for me to explain a thing to her if I am not allowed near her. There is no reason for her to do that to me. The funny thing is Marsha, that I did not hurt her for her to get revenge like this ... I left after cheating, lies, wasting money on stuff I never knew about, networking guys online - Why did I put up with that for 2 years? NOT coz I wasblinded by love, but scared to lose my daughter. I am much stronger since i left in Aug 07 and no doubt will be even stronger when this is all done and dusted. Sad, though, especially for Jacey

I had a BIG day OFF work today - the house was totally turned inside out from 9 to 5! (I am always at work and the 1 day I get off per week is always spent with Jacey!) Looks great! At least I work full time - HER place usually looks like a bomb has hit it coz she is always off doing 'stuff' with 'friends' when J is in child care, rather than cleaning the house! She hasn't had a job in years, so what IS her excuse? What DOES she do?

I do document everything now, including when I have her in my care. I told Nikki on Monday that it is a selfish act to stop me and J seeing each other and that I would go for 50-50 custody. She told me no chance, and that I would not see her any more so that is when I promisedher, that it may take 6 to 12 months (or more) BUT I WILL get my baby back, as the courts will see through her irrationality, mind games and power trips. Jacey is a princess ... not some pawn in her pathetic power game. Thanks again guys. I think I am doing all the right things to keep myself healthy, emotionally and physically, so that Jacey still has a home with her daddy who cares more for her than any thing else in the whole wide world!

erin0620
Erin0620  (Level: 77.2 - Posts: 737)
Sun, 27th Apr '08 10:15 AM

Good luck with everything, you sound like a great dad, one that any little girl would want! But remember this is a public forum, even though we are all your friends, keep in mind the possibility that the ex could look here for things you say about her. We're praying for you and Jacey from TN.

eesusbejesus
Eesusbejesus  (Level: 75.0 - Posts: 3645)
Sun, 27th Apr '08 10:55 AM

Unfortunately, too often, selfish people use children as a pawn to hurt. All they seek is to cause grief to the other parent and can't see what they are doing to a child. Back when I was a legal assistant, I often heard "He/she cheated on me, I want them to have NO CUSTODY!" Even my own ex-husband was that way. When I divorced him he said "Why should I have to pay child support? You left me."

Hang in there, Rick. Take her to court and get everything documented. I can't answer for Australia, but the States have changed the way custody is viewed. A wise judge I know once said in court "Visitation does not belong to either parent, it belongs to, and is the right of, the child." And the courts see through these vindictive and damaging games that parents play. A friend of mine recently went through a divorce where his (ex)wife used their daughter to every extent she could to try and hurt him for leaving her. She accused him of abuse, neglect, insanity, taking drugs, you name it, she tried to use it to prevent him from seeing his daughter, because that's the only way she knew she could hurt him. Fortunately, the judge assigned some monitors in the case, both parents had to go through a series of evaluations, along with the child, and everyone involved saw exactly what the woman was doing, and the father ended up with sole custody. She is allowed very limited visitation. So these things do backfire in people's faces. So be calm, even when you do not feel it, take legal action, comply with every single thing that courts ask, and let her true colors show to the people who will make these decisions.

I really feel for you, Rick. People who use a child for purposes of manipulation and revenge are pretty low on my list. Hang in there, do what you need to do, and let us know what is happening.

, Lodi


phitzy1
Phitzy1  (Level: 66.4 - Posts: 873)
Sun, 27th Apr '08 11:10 AM

Rick, hopefully your ex will see the light and the strength of your relationship with J. Unfortunately when there are acrimonious feelings, one has difficulty in the honest exchange of communication, and I stress honest.

I hope the courts will intervene on your behalf and all this will be settled soon...

You will be in my thoughts and meditations....

toledosugar
Toledosugar  (Level: 51.4 - Posts: 281)
Sun, 27th Apr '08 11:50 AM

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your precious child.

pepperdoc
Pepperdoc  (Level: 152.5 - Posts: 4286)
Sun, 27th Apr '08 11:51 AM

Rick, I can't add any more to the good advice and support you've gotten already. Just know friends are thinking about you.

Give yourself a mental health break, and read the Silly Joke thread. It won't solve any problems, but it can make you laugh and smile for a bit. And, sometimes we need those small moments to recharge us.

maurlin
Maurlin  (Level: 213.3 - Posts: 2671)
Sun, 27th Apr '08 11:53 AM

Rick...this should never happen to such a nice guy and a 3-year-old. My thoughts and prayers are with you both. I'm so glad you posted here, for family, which we are. It's just heartbreaking to hear what a vengeful ex can do to cause pain to someone and in the process also cause pain to a little child. Please know I care! ~Linda

dyenamite
Dyenamite  (Level: 49.6 - Posts: 669)
Sun, 27th Apr '08 12:02 PM

Rut'a, Erin-ator, Shazz-zam, Lod-ster, Pepsi-max, Maureen and Marsha-Marsha-Marsha. Thanks again for your kind words, constructive comments and uncompromising support. It means so much to hear from some of you guys in my time of emptiness. Love you guys. Will keep you updated. Talk to you tomorrow night (Um, your morning) for a more lighthearted chat. Legends, all of ya!
xoxo Rick (Apparently with a silent P)

dyenamite
Dyenamite  (Level: 49.6 - Posts: 669)
Sun, 27th Apr '08 12:04 PM

Lindy Loo, I do love you!

koota
Koota  (Level: 181.7 - Posts: 2100)
Sun, 27th Apr '08 12:23 PM

Hi Rick,
I agree with what is said above about keeping records of everything said and done and for keeping your own home spotless so that Nikki doesn't have anything at all to use as a weapon against you. I've seen these battles within my own family and have had access to my nieces and nephews cut off because of sole custody decisions, so I know what you're going through.

You mentioned in your first post that you thought that Nikki is using "Ice" (cocaine?). If this is so, you're battling the drug, not the person. This may be why she is so irrational, although, in my experience, divorce makes everyone irrational.

I hope you get your beloved daughter back soon!

Katy

bigdavy
Bigdavy  (Level: 131.3 - Posts: 529)
Sun, 27th Apr '08 12:28 PM

Rick,
My heart goes out to you in your struggle. Your profile page shows how much you love and care for your wonderful daughter, and it is awful that your ex is using her custody to hurt you. My sister has been fighting similar battles with her ex since their son was born 4 years ago. I am sure that your daughter knows how much you love her even when you aren't with her. Know that you have friends on this site who care about you and wish only the best for you and your daughter.
Hang in there-
Dave

captaintony
Captaintony  (Level: 79.5 - Posts: 75)
Sun, 27th Apr '08 12:45 PM

Rick...

If it is at all possible, thru the mediator or the court system itself, try to push for a drug test for your wife... if she tests AT ALL positive for ice, meth, etc., you would be in an excellent position for not only regaining joint custody, but possibly even getting full custody, at least until your ex could get clean... something to think about, anyway...

Positive waves, brother... I know it is not the perfect answer, but stay as positive as you can... part of your ex's strategy is to knock you down and keep you down, using your daughter as leverage.... it's a despicable act, but it happens all the time... and, usually, the child is the one who suffers the most... don't let your anger at your ex bleed over into your relationship with that little beauty...

ladyvol
Ladyvol  (Level: 205.2 - Posts: 5486)
Sun, 27th Apr '08 12:52 PM

Rick, my thoughts and prayers are with you at this very trying time...If you need anything at all I'm here for you my friends! All you have to do is ask....Just recently went through a similar situation in my own family so I know where you are coming from...e-mail me at ladytn@bellsouth.net if you want to talk or just vent...God is on your side remember that okay?
Love ya,
Vickie

diva305
Diva305  (Level: 146.6 - Posts: 1651)
Sun, 27th Apr '08 12:59 PM

Awww so sad

Haul that stoopid beyootch to court ASAP! Call Children Protective Services! That's IF you can prove she's an unfit mother.
I dunno what the laws are in The Land of Oz, but here in the US, any father (that is fit of course) is entitled to at least visitation; even if it's supervised.

We're here and pulling for ya.

Keep the Faith

Ya Gotta Believe

Palma



embee
Embee  (Level: 86.7 - Posts: 362)
Sun, 27th Apr '08 1:01 PM

Many of my friends here know my story. Sploofus was my salvation during the difficult times. It is very sad for everyone, especially the children, when a parent uses them for selfish reasons. All I can say is spend the money on a good lawyer. I don't know the rules in Australia, but if she's on drugs, your daughter needs to be protected. It's worth any amount of money to make sure that happens. Hang in there.

zeedee
Zeedee  (Level: 224.7 - Posts: 1088)
Sun, 27th Apr '08 1:07 PM

I send best wishes and prayers your way. I hope the issue comes to a speedy resolution.
Diane

chyenn
Chyenn  (Level: 202.5 - Posts: 1332)
Sun, 27th Apr '08 1:10 PM

my heart is breaking for you, my Friend. you know i think you are a terrific Dad from our previous correspondences. Please make every effort to keep yourself healthy as you go through this trial. Jacey needs that from you.

one other thing about drug testing... if at all possible see if the lady can be compelled by the courts there to have a hair follicle test as opposed to the urine test. it's much more telling than a urine sample will be.

hang in there. your family here at sploofus has your back!

hugs

~~chyenn~~

taco24
Taco24  (Level: 131.0 - Posts: 589)
Sun, 27th Apr '08 1:19 PM

I am so sorry for your troubles. This is the pits, truly. I do hope all works out for you and the child.

chickfbref1
Chickfbref1  (Level: 120.7 - Posts: 2012)
Sun, 27th Apr '08 2:30 PM

Rick,

So sorry for what you are going through, I can't even begin to imagine. Like practically everyone before me, I think you should get yourself a damn good lawyer. A daughter needs her daddy, no matter how old she gets.

I'm keeping you in my thoughts...hang in there buddy!!

Me.

knerd
Knerd  (Level: 99.0 - Posts: 1141)
Sun, 27th Apr '08 4:27 PM

I never thought I would cry reading something on this site, but here I go. I have viewed your profile before and thought "What a beautiful girl, and you can tell that's a daddy totally smitten with his child!". I feel so horrible about what you must be going through right now. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Keep reaching out to others!

Karen
If you feel comfortable giving out your address, I have a menagerie of beanie babies that I have been holding onto for years and would love to send for you to have when your daughter returns.

osuzannacollage
Osuzannacollage  (Level: 132.1 - Posts: 1299)
Sun, 27th Apr '08 4:50 PM


Prayers and positive thoughts coming your way from Orlando!

By all means, insist on an immediate drug test. The proof is in the pudding on that one.

Don't argue or contact your ex in any way right now. It only adds fuel to the fire. Go immediately to the courts and let then handle it from here. At this point, let your attorneys do the talking -- including any kind of agreement on anything. Emphasize speed on this to your attorney, and stay in touch with his/her office on a regular basis.

God bless you all!

Susan

smokydevil
Smokydevil  (Level: 163.0 - Posts: 5381)
Sun, 27th Apr '08 6:06 PM

I don't know a lick about laws or what you need to do to get her to behave like an ordinary rational adult. I can say from experience that if you let it get to you and start playing her game back it will damage the relationship between you and your daughter. I know, my parents played a similar game with my sister and I. The one who plays that game the least is the one your daughter will have the best relationship with in the long run. Man, sorry to hear about your troubles! Keep us updated. Wishing you well -Jeremy

bushyfox
Bushyfox  (Level: 174.4 - Posts: 2403)
Sun, 27th Apr '08 6:11 PM

You have my supportive response via email.

Get ready for an almighty battle!!!

~Bev

salzypat
Salzypat  (Level: 156.3 - Posts: 5315)
Sun, 27th Apr '08 6:16 PM

Rick, I am so sorry you are having this difficulty. I know that little princess is the light of your life and you are hurting terribly over this. As others have said, please keep yourself strong and healthy so when that little girl does get to come back to you, you'll be ready for her.

One of the sweetest pictures in my mind I have of you and Jacey is the weekend you said you both painted your hands and feet and made colorful prints ... and a mess! But the thought of the two of you laughing and making those prints and the big mess makes me happy.

I believe it was Lodi who said judges are finally getting smart and are not just automatically turning children over to the mother. Sometimes the dad is the most loving, stable parent.

Hang in there. Your name and Jacey's name will go up on my prayer mirror. I'll send loving thoughts and prayers your way several times a day as long as necessary.

dyenamite
Dyenamite  (Level: 49.6 - Posts: 669)
Sun, 27th Apr '08 7:18 PM

... no, ... aw, hang on ... better to let it out! The response to my sob story has so far been nothing short of overwhelming. I did expect to see a couple of you post here, but all the PMs from others not in this thread, coupled with the undying support and encouragemnet of my faithful 'family' friends ... THANKYOU! It helps a lot, and to know God is up to his eyeballs with well wishes for me, J and nikki is unreal!! :D I love you all, and Karen , how dare you shed the first tear on this thread ... And then make me cry too! Thanks so much babe. You are amazing. Address coming your way - You DO realize that over 50 of the kids are MINE and only a handful are Jacey's? LOL ... She will be stoked when she sees what I have fone with her room and the new editions of BKs will be a very sweet icing!

I have my first mediation session (alone) in 2 saturday's time, which will be great to get underway. Let you know what happens this week, if anything! Keep the prayers coming until you see an updated pic of Prince Charming with his beautiful princess on my profile.

Today, I am going to make a collage poster of Jacey, using all the photos i have from the 3 wonderful years so far. (Seeing as Nik wants to keep my $400+ professional photos!) Don't get me wrong, no material possessions are worth arguing over, but when you have paid that money for an unforgettable experience and you have put a lot into it (Choosing outfits, propping her up because she is still at the roly poly stage etc) - You want to see it on your wall on the 10 days in a FN that you are not with her- NOT on her rich folks' wall in their house. Will try to post a copy of it on my profile.

Feel free to keep dropping PMs to see how I am, or even a chat at Facebook, or in the Sploofus group forumas there. xoxoxox

dinky_dye@hotmail.com for any other correspondence. Love ya guys!

dyenamite
Dyenamite  (Level: 49.6 - Posts: 669)
Sun, 27th Apr '08 7:26 PM

BTW, Genese, thanks as usual. I have wanted to do a hair follicle test for a while now, but it costs a fair bit! I won't hesitate to play that Ace if her game goes up a level. It's not nice to think that I will have to focus on her insecurities and past actions, but all I care about is seeing Jacey and being amicable with Nikki for her sake. To be able to do that, she needs to chnge a few things, and probbaly so do I. I told Nik, she is a great person, just needs a little help right now ... I don't think that ever goes down well with her, as she see's it as an attack on herself as a person and parent. Of course, we know that needing help with things is not a weakness, identifying the problem and taking steps to fix it is strong! Sweeping it all under a carpet and running away though? I think that is weak.

crazy4games
Crazy4games  (Level: 123.0 - Posts: 1020)
Sun, 27th Apr '08 10:58 PM

Rick

I'm sorry for what you're going through.You and Jacey are in my thoughts.
You have received some good advice here, there's not much more for me to add.

Stay strong, and know you have friends here on the Island who are in your corner.

scifidwarf
Scifidwarf  (Level: 140.2 - Posts: 249)
Sun, 27th Apr '08 11:53 PM

I will definitely pray for you. I hope all goes well. You sound like a great guy and I wish you the best.

dyenamite
Dyenamite  (Level: 49.6 - Posts: 669)
Mon, 28th Apr '08 12:55 AM

You can't ALL be blinded by my false friendly nature, can ya? No ... I am a ggod guy ... no a GREAT guy, and if my head needs to grow from me saying it to myself over and over, then so be it (it used to be bigger lol I am confident I will get custody, let alone access but it is the time between that is gonna drive me nuts! I just wish I could get through to her. Fancy not even letting me call to say goodnight. She is tryiong to hurt me, but I am trying not to let her . Thanks my family/friends. You guys have no idea how chuffed I am right now, knowing you are all loooking out for me. Dy-no MITE!

Now on a lighter note, I take this opportunity to say, one more time - GET YOUR BUTTS TO FACEBOOK AND JOIN THE SPLOOFUS GROUP! Chat, play trivia games (Erin, you THINK ya have the biggest brain!) and millions of silly applications to give us a giggle together. See ya all there some day soon!
Ricky Boy

erin0620
Erin0620  (Level: 77.2 - Posts: 737)
Mon, 28th Apr '08 8:03 AM

We're all here for you anytime you need to vent.

Davidf's brain ate mine for breakfast. He also regularly beats me at Scramble. I hate him.

erin0620
Erin0620  (Level: 77.2 - Posts: 737)
Mon, 28th Apr '08 8:07 AM

Dag nab delay messin' me up. Anyway, I hope it's clear that I hate davidf for no good reason at all.

roccotab
Roccotab  (Level: 60.4 - Posts: 185)
Mon, 28th Apr '08 9:58 AM

Rick I have not participated in the forums much lately, but your story grabbed my heart. As many of my Sploofus family knows I am the proud single dad of my 8 year old son Keagan. All I can advise you on is get to court asap, and demand visitation immediately untill the courts make a permanent custodial decision one way or the other.

You do have rights as a parent, and unless things are much different there the courts will not keep children from either parent unless they are convinced, and have evidence that the child is in some way endangered by one parent or the other, they are not concerned with "he said she said" rabble, only with the well-being, and safety of the child.

And to help give you a light of hope, My son has been with me for 3 years now, and he is only 8, and the first summer he spent with me he was only 9 months old, and his mother, and I were never married, he still carries her last name. I was driven by love, and a bond even motherhood could not stop. I didn't even wait 2 days to drag her into court for my rights to be with my son, and I had him with me every summer, and holidays on odd years she had him on even years. Even that seemed to little of an amount of time, but I took it gladly. Then fate, or God stepped in 3 years ago. I returned him to his mother after the summer of "05", and 2 weeks later she called me, and asked me would I please take Keagan back to go to school here with me through the 1st grade, while she tried to get her life in order. Well he graduates the 3rd grade in less then a month, and has not been back with her since, and she has only visited twice in all that time.

What I am trying to do probably badly is to show you a worse case scenario that hopefully you will find some strength in. I am also disabled, and still await a disability hearing, with only welfare as income, and having to live with my 72 year old mother for now, not exactly a perfect situation, but a loving one. The fact is Rick there is always hope even when it seems so bleak, your love for your daughter, and the shoulders of friends will be your rock. Don't worry about Jacey she knows you love her, and time passes much differently for children then for us. Every morning they awaken to a new world to discover, and much to learn, and what seems like an eternity for you between visits, is only like yesterday to Jacey. But I STRONGLY recommend you do what you must as quickly as you can to be with her again. My heart, and my thoughts are with you all, if for nothing more then the happiness, and well-being of that precious little girl.

Rocco

dyenamite
Dyenamite  (Level: 49.6 - Posts: 669)
Tue, 29th Apr '08 6:45 AM

... + ... THANK YOU GUYS

Step one of the prayers have brought me my first miracle. I had a phone call today from Nikki and she has brought Jacey around for me to see her. I have been hugging her non stop for 5 minutes (she was over it after that Just had to pop on quickly for a sec to say thanks for the prayers, at least I get to be with her. Please keep them coming so that I may get where I need to be. I love you guys
Rick-star xoxoxox

erin0620
Erin0620  (Level: 77.2 - Posts: 737)
Tue, 29th Apr '08 7:39 AM

That's great, Rick! Take full advantage when Nikki is being nice, but don't forget how she can turn, and definitely still get something in writing, and legal, for regular visitation. Don't let it be up to whatever mood she happens to be feeling.
I'm so happy for you! Hope you guys have a blast!
-Erin :D

nelly
Nelly  (Level: 172.0 - Posts: 1167)
Tue, 29th Apr '08 8:31 AM

Fantastic news, Rick! Agree with Erin - don't be tempted to think everything's rosy (Nikki may well only be doing this so that she looks better in mediation or to deter you from proceeding)! Stick to your guns - get it sorted legally. That way you both know where you are and have recourse should things get difficult in the future.
Really happy for you. Thanks for taking the time to share!
Karen

eesusbejesus
Eesusbejesus  (Level: 75.0 - Posts: 3645)
Tue, 29th Apr '08 9:05 AM

Really great post, Rocco. Nice to see you back in the chats.

Hooray Rick! Please still pursue this legally. My brother-in-law also has a daughter. He and her mother were never married and she didn't put his name on his daughter's birth certificate. When she finally grew tired of my BIL, she took the daughter and moved back to the Czech Republic. We kept begging him to do something legally but he was always concerned with the cost. And look what it has cost him. "If" he gets to see his daughter, which is maybe every other year, it is at the whim of the mother and at a great expense.

rowlanda
Rowlanda  (Level: 70.0 - Posts: 2856)
Thu, 1st May '08 2:17 AM

I agree Rocco, that was a wonderful post
....and you have walked in Rick's shoes.
I don't agree with you though that Jacey
is OK...the first day my son was not allowed
to visit his daughter - I'm told she sat on
a chair all day and waited for him to come!!!!
She was only 3 at the time....

I'm so happy for you Rick, but agree with the others.
Won't stop praying until you have a firm court agreement.
Do you still think Nikki may be on something????
Time to act!!!!

lisap369
Lisap369  (Level: 61.1 - Posts: 992)
Thu, 1st May '08 3:14 AM

So sorry to read of your plight, Rick... and happy to hear of your reunion... wishing you luck and law on your side


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